Liana Dimitrokshina
Autismas a malicious generic program. Causes of its occurrence. Successful experience of the experimental group
Introduction
The first of May in Tuapse was very windy, very sunny and very hot. My husband and I got wet while dragging our belongings into a huge hotel; on top of that my hair turned into a crow's nest. I was just about to find a quiet corner to pin up my hair as a woman with wide open eyes ran up to me:
And suddenly the young woman burst into tears.
The hairpin fell down on the floor and the curl dropped over my eyes. The students of the coaching school gathered around rushing to get the keys to their rooms. The final two-week training of the coaching school started the next day and I was teaching the Systemic Family Constellations course. My husband was filling in the hotel check-in form; I left him my passport and suggested to the young woman:
We sat down on the round armchairs at the back of the hotel lobby. Students of different ages were bustling all around, the huge windows were flooded with sunlight, people were chatting and laughing – after months of online training people recognized each other, hugged, exchanged their phone numbers.
How the MАu-Therapy program was born
At present I am a member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, the author of nearly 30 books on the psychology of family relationships, the founder of three huge projects for women.
But back in 91, I worked as the deputy director of a small company. The night before my husband and I had a big quarrel and in the morning we had breakfast in silence after which each went about his own business. I made my way to the fourth floor, unlocked the door and… dropped the bread and potatoes. Some papers were scattered on the trampled floor, the TV-videocassette recorder- the microwave vanished into thin air, closets wide open. The first thought was – we were robbed!!! Even my daughter’s cartoons had disappeared. But then I noticed that my skirts were still there. My second husband left me, and took everything that was not nailed.
I sobbed for three days, feeling bankrupt and like a complete failure. How is it that, I'm so successful in my job, I'm already a deputy director, the company is growing exponentially, I own an apartment, a car, gold and diamonds, furs… But when it comes to men nothing is working out. Another husband, another asshole.
And then I figured it out.
If two men are so bad, maybe I'm not that good either. Maybe I'm also an asshole.
That's when I began to study the psychology of family relationships. I have learned so much! Now I have more than 30 professional skills: I'm a Gestalt psychologist, a specialist in family constellations by Bert Hellinger and Idris Lahore, a student of Coline d’Aubret, a Chairwoman of the Federation of Constellation Facilitators of France. My expertise includes art therapy, narrative therapy, I'm a certified RPT processor, EMOS, kinesiology in psychology as well as dozens of other certificates and licenses. Several student psychologists and coaches from Konstantin Dovlatov's coaching school have been studying my lectures. But most important are my own results.
My third husband and I have been happily married for more than 20 years, and our relationship is going from strength to strength, year after year. A big house, grandchildren, a cat, a dog…
And over the years I began teaching women how to become happy. My School of Woman's Happiness http://school4woman.ru has welcomed more than two thousand students. There are hundreds of women studying at the Institute of Family Happiness http://pozitivelive.ru. And now dozens of women are on the MAU-Therapy program http://PobedimAutism.ru – a program for mothers of autistic children. The program itself came about following extensive analysis of the statistics provided by my students based on their results. It turned out that some of them had managed to remove 'autism' and 'neurodevelopmental delay' as a diagnosis. In fact, many managed to do that. My projects contain tens of thousands of final feedback reports and more than 300 thousand reports on task completion. Even big institutions don't have such extensive statistics. Here is screenshot of the Statistics Center of one of my projects, the School of Woman's Happiness.
«Hello, my name is Marina Vendelovskaya, I am from the Voronezh region, and this is my video report on Liana Dimitrokskina's course "MAu-Therapy".
I started the MAu-Therapy program by accident, and, I should say right away that it was a lucky accident. My son Daniel is a late-in-life baby. I have two adult daughters; they are both successful and independent. But the boy had problems from the get-go. He had several surgeries right after birth (the labor was difficult) and is autistic; he has developmental delay, very weak memory and attention deficit disorder. This is our greatest misfortune in life.
When I started Liana Ivanovna’s course I didn’t know her and didn’t really expect any impressive results, as we had tried everything. The most surprising thing is that on this course I am working on myself, but it is my son who is changing. These changes were noticeable from the first few classes. In the first few weeks I noticed my son becoming more peaceful, more cheerful, more connected to me and his father, less secluded. This inspired us immensely! I continued my studies and at the moment I have completed just 2 out of 9 trimesters of Liana Ivanovna’s course.
So, what do we have now?
Firstly, I want to say that one of the most important things for us is socialization. Our child goes to school (he attends a regular school) when he was always an outcast. Children bullied him, teachers dismissed him; frankly speaking, going to school was torture for him. And now, when I completed 2 trimesters, only 2 out of 9, the situation has changed drastically. Our child goes to school with great pleasure. He has the same classmates who thought nothing of him but now they are great friends. He gets along wonderfully with the kids in the neighborhood, even initiating some games. Children come and call him to play outside, they go hiking, and they have many activities together. And when my son comes home from school – he is always cheerful, joyful, and eager to talk and share his day with us. Before he never said “we”, he always said «they» – “they” wrote the test, “they” were doing something today. «We» appeared just on the second week of my studies. Our son came and said “we”. This is very important for us. I believe this is very important for every parent.
What else? About his attention deficit. He is much more attentive and responsible now. If before he couldn’t even remember the lessons he had, the homework he was given, never writing anything down, then now he is worried about being ready for a test, when that test will be and if he needs to bring something to school. We were terrified to leave him alone at home before whereas now that’s not a problem. What’s more, aside from the chores we give him sometimes he takes initiative to do something nice for his parents, to please us, he could make something to eat or wash the dishes or something else we didn’t ask for. Aside from this he’s got new interests now, he’s become more interested in various things. He draws very well and he started reading more.
His speech has started improving. He used to mumble before and this interfered with his communication. Now he speaks much clearer and we see that he is more careful and conscious of his speech, he’s become more confident.
Also, he used to have constant compulsive spontaneous movements, whether he touched his face, or pulled some grimaces, or poked his stomach with his fingers. This has almost disappeared.
Before we also had a problem with sleepwalking; he would walk at night, jump up, run somewhere. I slept very lightly so we could catch him, to avoid something bad happening. Now this has also stopped.
I would also like to say that he gets sick less despite his main diagnosis which unfortunately is very troublesome for us. Now he is even allowed to attend physical education classes, although in the past he was always exempted from sports. And he is delighted, very happy that he can engage with his peers. You know, there is so much to say, so many things that I get lost, it's just impossible to tell you everything.
I'm just happy that I started Liana Ivanovna's course. This course is so extensive, so gigantic, such colossal work, and it shows. Believe me, I’m not a newbie in psychology, I myself engaged in Systemic Family Constellations, Metaphoric Cards and I teach courses and provide training so I can appreciate this huge amount of work and how extensive this course is.
There is also a side-effect – a very remarkable side-effect, it’s not just my son’s health which is improving, but our family’s relationship too. Although my husband and I always had a wonderful relationship, and I thought it cannot get better, it turned out that it is possible; it went from good to amazing. So to sum up, those who want to have a healthy child, a healthy son, and a happy, cheerful, joyful family – I advise you to start the "Mau-Therapy” course and be healthy and happy. Let there be a lot of joy in your life. Thanks to Liana Ivanovna, I am forever grateful.»