My way of seeing things has always been very direct and realistic, which has sometimes been a problem; that is why coaching has been such a satisfying job for me for years. And I have dedicated myself to studying it and specializing deeply in it. But in doing so I saw that I did not identify with anything, but along the way I have found great teachers from other branches that have helped me understand them.
I have had to recycle myself to give the best of myself, as I have always done in any project. But really in this one the difference is that not only I can explain it, but you can apply it, learn and get to use it.
Not just for yourselves but for other people. There are different ways to study and this is what is finally being seen and recognized. All are valid once the level is recognized and checked. The one who learns from the beginning a career; the one who starts working discovers a passion for it and starts studying through Masters, specializes in the subjects that he likes; the self-taught one who studies online because he works or because of a hobby, taking out the career of his dreams even if it is to have it for himself, etc. Everything is equally important.
Today it is proven that studying, reading, music, singing songs (things that before when doing them were not given importance although we are older), all that makes your life better and your brain is more active. If you have a dream you have to pursue it, no matter what age, the experience is something that adds up apart from what you learn by reading.
I will also show you different Coaching that you have not stopped to see or observe, that you have in front of you and that will have helped you at some point in your life. Or simply you will be it and it will be your strong point, why not improve it and take advantage of it? There is always talk of the four or five best known and they are all of equal value.
In order to speak well of some of them, I have studied the subject because it was totally profane in the matter. Thanks to that I liked them, but the best thing is that I found people who made me understand the concepts very well, to get to understand them; so I could work on it perfectly if I wanted to.
That's what a good coach is, that when he explains something to you, he transmits passion, gives you tools so that you can develop, and shows you in a clear way your qualities and your deficiencies in that matter.
I have to admit that there are some issues that I could explain, but I could not put them into practice. What you have to do there is to refer someone and share the work.
Remember that a coach is someone who takes you by the hand and accompanies you in your life for a short time, helping you to achieve goals, giving you the necessary tools to do so. One thing is that after a while the situation or your life changes, and you cross paths again, but for a totally different reason.
I have been working as a coach for many years because of my background, both for my profession that you all know, and for my love of studying and researching; a whole sector that was sensitive-intuitive like me had been excluded.
For this reason I decided to get to work, because when someone has an idea and a dream has to get to work on it. The first thing I did was to analyze the weaknesses, threats, opportunities and strengths of the new method, what it could bring to people. And what I had to do was finish preparing myself very well.
According to Abraham Maslow and his humanist theory, there is a series of needs that the individual has to satisfy, establishing a hierarchy and order for his satisfaction in the form of a pyramid. From them he deduces that all people need to feel integrated in a group.
The first needs such as basic or physiological were covered. These are the ones inherent in every person and basic for the survival of the individual such as breathing, dressing, feeding, etc.
Then I began to study, to make things right at home. I started to work because I wanted to be independent, also to understand myself spiritually with everything that had happened to me in a short space of my life. These needs were for security.
I investigated and inquired about what I liked. I began to meet professionals and started to get to know people; affection was created. These were the social needs.
The take-off was to create my books, to explain everything I liked by transforming it into words, being able to share everything I discovered. I was respected, I had recognition and esteem for people.
And finally my main need for self-realization is to create a method in which people can help themselves, grow and stand on their own feet: Inner Knowledge Coaching.
That is what I have been preparing and studying for all these years. It is where I wanted to get, that people accept themselves without prejudice, valuing themselves and not being afraid of themselves. Seeing that every quality is a virtue and what we have often been told is a defect, well worked can serve as a quality or distraction to achieve our goal. But above all, let's not harm ourselves or let others be harmed by it.
When I was researching there were many types of coaching, but only some were talked about and the others were overlooked; since they were not commercial or given the necessary importance.
But each one in its own style has to have the same value, even if it is really very difficult or almost impossible to explain or to get to value it, because of the time or the dedication it takes.
It is like a gemologist who cuts a diamond; its value is for a lifetime. Or someone who makes something to fit you and you love it, has known how to take your essence in a conversation and translate it into a few conversations. He has captured the essence of what you need, what he would be is a lifelong tailor, for example. He who makes you something and you don't get tired of wearing it, you would never take it off. This is the sector of true craftsmen, who have already lost their way and are almost gone.
So for me, there is no better or worse coaching but it depends on what you need in each moment or the value it will bring to your life.
Thanks to the information and communication technologies, the internet and great communicators that exist today, techniques that have always existed and that can help you are becoming known.
We all shine in something, what you have to find is that you shine, make yourself strong and enjoy it.
What I am going to explain to you are simple things that exist around you, so that you can use them, understand them better, to live the day to day with total comfort taking better advantage of the moments.
At no time do they have to be something rigid, you have to make them flexible, generating them and using them according to the intuition that you will be developing.
This is the basic concept that you will always perceive in the series of Inner Knowledge Coaching books.
Chapter 3- Sorry, but don't forget.
We are in a society where they spend all day saying that we have to forgive and forget. Which, logically and coherently, is not the right thing to do.
What is the right thing to do? We have to learn to forgive ourselves, we have to learn to forget about toxic people, to be able to leave them behind, to be able to leave relationships, or if it is at work, not to be affected or disturbed and to be able to reconcile our working life with them.
But why do people spend all their time saying forgive and forget?
Would you tell a child you see putting his hands in the socket or on the fire and burning, to repeat the action each time, or would you put your hand in the fire each time to burn? That would be an abuse. The same thing is repeating that situation over and over again on an emotional level.
Chemistry exists, it is something that cannot be avoided, you like a person or you don't like him, you are attracted to him or not, you feel it or you don't feel it. It depends on the area that you have to deal with the situation; you will have to make a decision or another.
Logically, if it is in the work environment, you have to profile it, treat it from a partner's point of view because it is not your friend. You are only going to deal with that person for a few hours. You have to learn to be sociable and not let their attitude bother you, not let their way of acting affect you, putting walls between you and that person.
Family is supposed to be our safe haven; however, many times it can be the place where we find the deepest pain. If it is in a direct family setting and it is a relative of yours, logically I advise you to first have a conversation with that person. If you do not reach a good conclusion and you do not achieve anything, cut that person off and distance yourself.
If the relative in question is your partner or husband, the conversation is logically the couple's sphere first, so that he can see how you feel and how that person treats you.
Likewise, if the situation continues, try to see as little as possible of the person who is causing the abuse, or of the people, because otherwise the relationship will end up suffering and possibly breaking up. The problem here is that many times breakups are caused by third parties and a large part of them are caused by the family.
The toxicity of people makes, that when they are cowards above all, they never attack one alone, but they do it together supporting each other. That is why you do not have to forget the first offense they have done to you, but learn from it, overcome it and from there move forward in your life without giving it importance.
Do not keep grudges because you are in pain, but you are ignorant; since once you are over it, if you are not in pain, it bothers them more.
But it is logical that you cannot be sitting down for dinner or lunch with someone that is always disrespecting you. And if you do it just for work, and because there is no other choice, under very strict rules and guidelines in which you control the situation and do not affect you.
Many times there are toxic relationships, because the desire to fulfill social roles can lead us to fall into the hands of toxic people. They appear because of insecurity, low self-esteem, or because society expects you to play certain roles: to get married, to have children, a partner, etc.
It seems that if you are not with someone the world will end. You can end up giving in to everything a partner asks of you for fear of loneliness. There are also people in your partner who are used to being in charge and the other party to obeying. There are many cases of couples who don't love their partner, they just want to exercise control to an unhealthy extent.
There are relationships based on blackmail, lies, fear, and the idealization of the person, whether at work, in the family, or affectively.
But in your free time and your private life, toxic people: out! It is vital to both your physical and mental health. Taking distance and staying away from complicated people improves your health. Because, although it may not seem like it, there are people who are indifferent to the needs of others.
The question is: how do we protect ourselves from these toxic people? Since relating to them makes us suffer, we must know what our limits are, what we do not want and mark them.
What the toxic person expresses is not your way of thinking and you don't have to make it your own, you have to value yourself. You have to remember all the achievements you have had and all that you have reached up to now, since self-esteem and confidence will be decisive. And above all, you must not think about it constantly, you have to focus on your things because they are more important of course!
Because toxic people do not change if they are rewarded for not changing, with others often being guilty for letting them be toxic. Don't hate them for being toxic because you only poison yourself with their toxicity, so forgive, but don't forget.
Take enough distance to improvise, adapt and overcome the obstacles, the toxic sensations that you have long believed and felt were your fault.
From now on there is a whole world ahead of you and a new path that you must explore and get to know.
Also discover how you really are with your mistakes and qualities, but above all, what you must learn is to love and value yourself.
Believing in yourself and your values is not bad, it's a plus. What others believe or what they impose on you, as long as it is negative for your physical and mental health, prevents you from developing as a person and a human being, from standing on your own feet, from working and being independent; it means that they unbalance you, are toxic and should be out of your life.
This does not mean that you should forget that all people feel the same vibrations or energies; because the same person or persons remember that they do not treat everyone the same. They often make a difference. And you should not fall into the loop of wondering why, or what their reason is. Just walk away as quickly and calmly as possible.
There is a saying that goes, "Old stuff, few and far between. And another saying to keep in mind is: "Words are enough for the wise. So, friends who don't love you don't waste your time. You will be in other places much better, more loved, and better valued and you will have found your place away from the people or situations that produced the discomfort.
Chapter 4- Being generous instead of excusing ourselves
At times, we have lost much of our ability to communicate and above all, to be generous both to ourselves and to others.
This is a part that we have to start rectifying and working on.
The first thing to keep in mind is that many people are used to give, to buy, to seek, to please others, but they forget how to reach a balance, they have to count on the main person, which is themselves.
You have to learn to be generous with yourself, to take into account, to stop thinking about what you want to do, which path to follow, or simply when you are going to choose something for someone, to remember yourself as well.
But a fundamental part that must be worked on together is simply to give thanks; which seems to be frowned upon or unimportant.
We are used to saying, for example: "sorry I'm late". We take it for granted that the other person has to understand, apologize and take care of us. And all that with good treatment and kindness.
And actually we should say at the outset: "Thank you for waiting for me". And from there, give the explanation that you consider necessary. But that person, right from the start, has dedicated his time and attention to you outside the established timetable.
We have to learn to appreciate things, time, help and attention from other people, give value to their work or friendship. And not hide behind excuses, because for that person their time is also valuable.
These are insignificant details, but they will strengthen our bonds and also our confidence.
Chapter 5- Intuitive people's perceptions
All of us, from the moment we come into the world, are capable of perceiving and feeling a series of sensations and perceptions, totally different from those we later encounter, because we have lost them on our way.
Of these losses, I would like to tell you that a great part of them are usually educational, due to fears or to the insensitivity or lack of certain senses.
Not all people are equal, nor do we develop everything equally. There are people who are excellent musicians, I personally am a negation and I love music, although I do not know how to play any instrument.
There are people who have the facility or capacity for something special that they have or develop, because they have it innate, maintain it or use it over time.