I need to note that some of my fellow psychotherapists whom I have happened to work with and interpret are very peculiar people. Motto of one of the colleagues is Sono tutti matti (We are all crazy!), and then she would always add: Ma sono capo dei matti! (But I am the head of all crazy!). One can hardly fear anything else, having interpreted this lady.
I have conducted my seminars on psychocatalysis in Switzerland and Italy in Italian, including Sapienza University in Rome. I have invited my Italian-speaking colleagues to Russia on various occasions; there have been many situations where knowing Italian proved to be necessary and useful.
I have translated into Russian the book written by an Italian philosopher and psychotherapist, Antonio Mercurio. It was published in Russia in 2006. Here is its title: Existential Anthropology and Personalistic Metapsychology. I do not always remember the exact title right away. However, I feel proud that everything worked out.
Knowing the language has given me an opportunity to discover new cities and countries, as well as meet wonderful people. Memories of each of these meetings are still vibrant. I hope you will also have your victories and achievements, thanks to free communication without any language barrier: there will be people and new places, interesting projects in the countries that will open up in a new light because you speak their language.
Further on, I will share multiple episodes of how self-regulation methods can be used in everyday life in psychotherapy, or while travelling, or in other situations. However, to overcome these intense moments in our lives, when maximum self-realization is expected from us, we need to learn to move from the state of tension and feeling petrified to the state of freedom and flexibility.
In the next chapter, you will find information on how you can become more successful in the learning process, and what your possible stumbling points might be. I hope that you will be able to define your priority tasks with the help of self-diagnostics offered below.
Learning a foreign language can become a model for acquiring knowledge in any other sphere. If theres a person who needs to make quick progress in any other field, the following algorithms can be easily adjusted to suit this goal.
Basic problems one encounters when learning a foreign language
New facts
There were times when it was more than enough to speak our mother tongue. Back then, life was revolving within the limits of the village or a region, where you travelled on a horse on the days of a fair, and in those circumstances, learning a foreign language seemed at least eccentric. Using a foreign language made sense only when a person was wealthy enough and had enough free time to subscribe to foreign magazines, or to travel, or if one had business abroad. Even a hundred years ago, there were very few people who could afford it.
Now, everything has changed. Knowing a foreign language is indispensable. Many people travel around the world as tourists; many also run international businesses; now, it is quite usual to have friends in foreign countries and on different continents. Modern technology and means of transportation make it all possible!
There is no limit to increasing our scope of knowledge. One should at least speak English, which is the language of international communication. It is recommendable to speak another foreign language, depending on your interests.
What do modern people think about education?
Lets be honest; they do not always have a positive attitude towards this process. Learning a foreign language is often associated with hard work, extra effort, similar to climbing a mountain covered with ice, as there is always the danger of sliding back. Of course, we will do everything we can to hold tight and to keep on moving; we try to flatten our way to the top, to make it comfortable and easy, but before setting off on this journey, lets define where we stand.
We will have a look at the cases when people were lucky to avoid any difficulties, and everything simply worked out on its own. The examples of the lucky ones can actually give us clues on how we can be successful, too! We will also turn to what causes difficulties in the learning process.
I would learn English simply because
The lucky ones are those who learn the language of their favourite musicians, poets, and scientists. No one has to make these people study because, for them, it is a pleasure.
Schwarzenegger and Paul McCartney
One doctor, a colleague of mine, looks like Arnold Schwarzenegger, although he is of delicate psyche; he learnt German and Italian simply because these were the languages of Mozart, his favourite composer. He worked at a clinic, and he sometimes would donate blood to provide for his family, but during the nights, he was compiling a catalogue of all works composed by Mozart. Such hobby required the knowledge of the language, and that is why he learnt German and Italian.
Oleg, another friend of mine, is a musician. He looks a bit like Paul McCartney, and he adores The Beatles. For this reason, he learnt all their songs, and that is how he learnt English.
During the process of learning, such people usually make wonderful discoveries about the object of their interest, and that is what maintains their motivation.
There are countless stories about how quickly people learn the language when they fall in love with the foreigners! We can feel motivated in learning a language when we want to speak to a spiritual guru. The sole idea of meeting someone special, a person who triggers the surge of endorphins in your body (these are the hormones of happiness), filled with positive emotions and does not require any additional reward.
Those were the cases when everything was all right with the motivation, and that is exactly what helped to cross the boundaries.
However, it is quite possible to achieve success even when your motivation is not that highly emotional. There are also cases like that!
Obstacles mean nothing
When a person is truly gifted, obstacles connected with learning a foreign language may seem insignificant absolutely.
If we try to describe the characteristics of the lucky ones, then we should mention their intelligence, willpower, outgoings, and the ability to connect with their interlocutor. No doubt, it is wonderful when a person possesses such qualities. Think about the universal genius of Leonardo, for example!
It is very seldom that one has all these qualities. It is much more often that someone has the willpower, and another person is brighter, yet another person is more emotional. However, there is no such person, who would be deprived of any of these qualities. All of us are gifted. We just have these talents in different proportions5.
Fig. 2. The self-portrait of Leonardo da Vinci: deep-set eyes is a sign of a sagacious mind; a fleshy tip of the nose and full cheeks mean rich emotionality and breadth of the soul; bushy eyebrows, a nose with a hump, a developed lower part of the face mean a remarkable will.
I single out the three types of people who I call square and shaggy, round and bald, and triangular and with a receding hairline6.
Fig. 2. The self-portrait of Leonardo da Vinci: deep-set eyes is a sign of a sagacious mind; a fleshy tip of the nose and full cheeks mean rich emotionality and breadth of the soul; bushy eyebrows, a nose with a hump, a developed lower part of the face mean a remarkable will.
I single out the three types of people who I call square and shaggy, round and bald, and triangular and with a receding hairline6.
Fig. 3. The constitutional genetic types: square (strong-willed), rounded (emotional) and triangular (intellectual). To the left there is an image of a hypersthenic, squat structure of the body that gives the character expansiveness, to the right there is an image of the hyposthenic, elongated structure of the body, which gives the character delicacy, pliability
Each of these types has its own set of abilities.
Inherited qualities: pros and cons
Triangular, with a receding line do not see the process of learning as labour. They like studying as much as other people enjoy jogging. These people have distinct looks: deep-set eyes, a prominent nose, and a spare frame (schizoid constitution according to Kretschmers terminology7). For this type of people, thinking means pleasure, and a learning process is perceived as a kind of sports, as a chance to exercise their brain. They greedily gobble new information.
A pencil and a shoe
People of this kind can easily find hidden connections between events. They are always the first to answer the question: what have a pencil and a shoe got in common? Their answer will be: Both leave a mark. A pronounced ability to establish associations helps them memorize things that might seem impossible for others.
We have to mention though that the extreme degree of these qualities may cause communicative difficulties: such people are often very reserved, unwilling to establish contact with other people; they can even seem autistic. Such students can easily read and understand, but they find it very difficult to speak in public because of the social anxiety.
There is the second kind of students. They are highly disciplined people who never ask themselves if learning a language should be pleasant. They usually have a strong chin, pronounced eyebrows, and an overall athletic figure (square and shaggy as we refer to them, or as psychiatrists call them epileptoid). These strong-willed people are characterized by their can-do attitude towards the task.
Military interpreter
This is how military people often treat the task they are given: If you cannot do it, we will teach you; if you dont want to, we will make you to. If it is round, roll it; if its square-shaped, drag it. If you dont have super-abilities, you will get there, but by studying hard! I have met quite a lot of military interpreters, and all of them are very professional!
Their assertin, an immense willpower, and focus on the goal are the qualities that lead these people to success. At the same time, their laconic nature may also become a problem. It sometimes happens that these people experience certain difficulties with speaking, as eloquence is not their strongest point.
On the contrary, there are very talkative people; they may seem rather pushy when it comes to communication: in other words, it is impossible to get a word in edgeways when talking to them. These people usually have plump cheeks, a small round nose, and they are prone to be overweight. Women have soft hair, and men are bald (round and bald according to our terminology, or a cycloid type, according to Kretschmer). They are always ready to communicate, no matter what the topic is. For them, speaking the language is one of the primary needs.
Cycloids can easily establish contact with a native speaker, though it does not mean they have no weaknesses: they tend to lack consistency and depth in learning grammar.
There are sensitive people who are able to perceive the finest nuances of speech and of human relations. They look delicate as they have a long, narrow face, a long neck, and a thin bone structure (thin and resonant; an asthenic kind). Unfortunately, this kind of people is characterized by shyness and bashfulness. They feel lost when in the company of other people as if their frequency is weaker than the powerful signal of other transmitters. These people have to go a long way to develop confidence and bravery in communication with other people.
We have several methods to help you make up for the qualities that each of the described types lacks, but we will discuss them later. As you may have already noticed, each quality can complicate the process and facilitate it at the same time. The schizoids ability to assimilate semiotic systems; the epileptoids stubbornness in getting to their goal; the cycloids openness to communication, and the asthenics delicate way of perception each of these qualities can become a tool to achieve success, and they have to work for you!
Further, we will return to the topic of personality types in the chapter titled Who should I practice with?
Learning under pressure
Even if you are lucky, and you possess all those qualities mentioned above, if you are intelligent, strong-willed, big-hearted and delicate at the same time, you still can sometimes feel like a learning process turns into an ordeal.
How do you learn the language?
I conducted a survey on the site www.psychocatalysis.ru in 20102011: If you are in the process of learning a foreign language, how do you organize it? The first variant sounded the following way: For me, learning a new foreign language is an easy and pleasant process because it makes me feel that I am getting closer to making my dream come true. The second variant was like this: I have a business-like approach to learning the language because I understand that I need it. Here is the third variant: I am learning the language under pressure simply because I have to do it. I suppose you have already found your approach among these answers. Here is what statistics say on this matter: 37.8% of respondents said that they were learning under pressure because of the circumstances. Fortunately, there were also people who were enjoying the learning process and found it easy. There were about 31.6% of people, who answered this way; 30.6% of respondents said that they had a business-like approach to this process because they understood the necessity.
Ninety-eight (98) people took part in the given survey. The percentage of the students under pressure was fluctuating from 37.8%, which we have mentioned earlier, to 42.3%; 37.8% continued learning the language although they had little wish to do so! Why shouldnt they begin enjoying the process and learn the language with as much interest as 62.2% do? Creating positive motivation will be one of our first tasks here. Then we will add some methods to make the process of knowledge acquisition easier, and we will get started. However, for now, we have to return to the reasons why we experience complications in the process of learning.
First unpleasant emotions
At the first stage of getting to know a foreign language, it seems very uncomfortable up to the point of seeming idiotic. One should make a certain effort to overcome this aversion. This feeling often becomes the topic for stand-up comedians.