In the Introduction, I promised to tell about a man who asked me for help in solving a problem. It was this incident that gave me the final impetus to write this book. Im telling you. Without a name, of course. Ill call it NN.
So, having started his story, stammering and falling silent, picking up words for a long time, NN finally reported that the sexual act in his performance could last about three hours quite calmly, and this is not the limit. But! All the women hes had so far CANT STAND such a long marathon! Having reported this information and calmed down a little, NN began to tell what he had not suffered over the years of his sexual activity. And, in fact, it came to the point that impotence loomed on the horizon. Dont laugh! You, as a man, know perfectly well how a womans refusal negatively affects a mans self-esteem.
I will not retell his confession in great detail, there is no need. But while he was talking about his thorny path, I remembered that I myself had encountered this several times. And I will tell you about the brightest case.
I had a lover who could do the same! He could prolong ONE sexual act up to three or four hours! Having sex for one hour for him meant getting laid fast! Two no matter where. Three is the norm. And sometimes we got to four or more hours at a time. And everything was going well, and I didnt even immediately understand WHAT was wrong in our relationship. All the sexual behavior of my lover said that he was not telling me something, hiding something. And when the relationship became more trusting, and we began to have intimate and frank conversations for a long time, I still extracted his secret from him. And when he told me that he can have ONE sexual act for two or three hours, and that is what is a problem for him (I dont ejaculate as fast as women want), which eventually resulted in an inferiority complex, I fell into a state of shock. How?! Humanity has been looking for ways to prolong sexual intercourse for thousands of years. Endless treatises have been written on this topic. The best minds of the three great cultures of India, Japan and China have been searching for the coveted sexual Grail for centuries (not counting smaller-scale cultures). Modern medicine invents magic pills in a crazy marathon for a hard and long erection, and you have this gift from nature and consider yourself unhappy and flawed?! Youre crazy! Yes, alas, he considered himself unhappy, flawed and inferior!
Even at the very beginning of his sexual life, he tried to persuade the ladies to such a feat, but nothing good came of it, and over time he simply began to adapt to his women, without even hinting at his capabilities. Can you imagine what its like to hide and restrain your innermost male talent and sexual essence all your life!
Gradually, I found out that the ladies who had been with him before me didnt really like sex at all. Of course, I will not call them frigid, since frigidity, what is called sexual dysfunction in modern sexology, is an extremely complex phenomenon. This is an intricate interweaving of many physical and psychological factors: there are diseases of the genitourinary system, psychological trauma, and the effects of various drugs, etc., etc. But these ladies were clearly similar to pisces, judging by the stories of my lover.
I must say that with all my obvious desire to know what ONE sexual act lasting four hours is, I had to bring my lover to a state of complete trust for a long time. Trust in the sense of creating complete confidence in him that I will not push him away when it comes to such a time.
And the hour has come! When, finally, we reached a fairly stable psychological comfort and unity of bodies and souls, the result exceeded all expectations! And now I can say with full confidence: such an experience takes consciousness to a completely new, higher, unexplored and very attractive level. Moreover, there were even more tempting prospects ahead! And if our meetings had lasted another three or four months, we would have entered into absolutely fantastic spheres! But as it often happens in life, our flight was interrupted. We broke up. You ask why? His official wife, for reasons completely incomprehensible to me, was against our meetings.
There was clearly a connection between these two men-a client at the consultation and my former lover. And it can be formulated as follows:
Even with such a gift to prolong ONE sexual act for several hours it is difficult for a man to find a partner who would like it or who could withstand such a marathon physically and psychologically!
In other words: fuck women dont need to fuck for so long!
So what is long sex? A whim of nature, a gift, a punishment, a curse, a mission, self-knowledge, a problem, unknown possibilities of the human body? I cant answer. But I can tell you the second secret.
CHAPTER III
THE SECOND SECRET
And here, from my point of view, the main law of psychology comes into full force: its not about the situation, but about the attitude to it.
A simple example is the air temperature. Tell me: +15°C is it cold or hot? Neither one nor the other. This temperature feels like cold or hot only in comparison. If in April the air temperature, which is still at zero, suddenly rises to +15°C in a couple of hours everyone will have a heat stroke, many will have high blood pressure, a headache will start. And if in July, when the thermometer has been showing above +35°C for two months, the temperature drops to +15°C in the same couple of hours everyone will freeze and will not go to work the next day because of a cold.