Этот совет кажется очевидным, но, как ни странно, ему очень трудно следовать. Крайне утомительно постоянно проявлять уважение к членам семьи, особенно если устал, чем-то расстроен или у тебя был тяжелый день. Но если мы хотим, чтобы наши дети выросли добрыми, заботливыми и сострадательными, мы сами должны быть образцом такого поведения. «Мы создаем модель, как нужно себя вести, что говорить, что делать в той или иной ситуации: дети смотрят на нас в поисках правильного примера и считывают эту информацию», поясняет Джеффри Фро, психолог из Университета Хофстра и один из авторов книги «Как воспитать благодарного ребенка» (Making Grateful Kids).
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