Sex & Intimacy 101 - Bareki K. A. 7 стр.


Anyway, lets go on. You got the vagina picture down there, I don’t want to say the reproductive system. Let just say ‘‘vagina’’ or ‘‘pussy’’ if that’s fine with you or whatever.... But know that God will never judge you for labeling an organ the way you want. So, I have just drawn and labeled the vagina and its neighbors on the previous page. Next time you want to do a book, and need illustrations, just try me out. Am not that bad...or am I?I help people publish books for almost nothing. If you’re interested Visit www.ansonpublishing.com go to services, fill the-form below and we’ll take it from there. I want you to focus on the clitoris and the pipe like entry, which is actually the vagina. Do you see where the penis goes in? At the end of that tunnel, there is that cervix part. If a guy has a dick long enough to touch that cervix part it is going to hurt. And the pain is unbearable. So while you go about trying to increase penile size just remember, that’s a no-go-area. And by the way, if the penis is longer than needed there’s no way of reducing it. I never heard of penis reducing medicine. Increasing the penis is like walking through a rail-way tunnel. If the train doesn’t come while you are in that tunnel, then you are simply fortunate. If it does, you are finished. If you increase the penis to a ‘‘right’’ length then we can say ‘‘well done kid.’’ But if it’s the wrong size, you will have to live with consequences of trying to teach God how to make the right penis length. So it’s a ‘‘do it at your own risk’’, coz whatever bad thing happens, you have yourself to blame. Not even the devil will be held responsible for you doing your thing and having your errors.

At the entrance is the vestibular gland. That’s for lubricating the vagina. It’s at the door. I mean the greater vastibular gland. Take a look at it. It lubricates the entrance. So when you put it in and its painful, don’t think it shows that you are the man. You are just hurting Eve, big time. You are breaking them traffic laws. That’s a stop sign brother, you are suppose to fondle until the gland releases the fluid and then once the fluid is there and the lips of the vagina have been puffed up, you enter.

We are almost at the end of the chapter, but let me tell you something that I might not have the writing space to say when we go ahead. Men love to be respected and sexed and women love relationships. Men are projectors and women are receptors. Men look at things in general and in summery, women love attention to detail. Yes, women and man are not same. But vaginas and penises are reciprocal. Every man’s penis has to have testicles and a shaft and every woman’s vagina ought to have the vestibular glands and labia majora or manora.There is nothing like this lady’s sex is nicer than that one. It is you the man, who imagines that woman is nicer than that one. And it feels like that because the mind is conditioned that way. This reminds me of Pavlov, Ivan (Petrovich) (1849–1936), a Russian physiologist. He is best known for his studies on the conditioned reflex. He demonstrated through a dog that salivates at the ring of a bell the concept of mental conditioning. God never gave some people nicer vaginas than others. That would simply be unfair. Yes,there are bigger vaginas, smaller vaginas, but ‘‘nicer’’ is rather subjective to mental perception and conditioning. There are men who just don’t know how to have satisfying sex and then they conclude that it’s because of the other person. They pass on the blame. Perhaps this other person mourns in way that they like and they think eish, this one’s sex is juicier. There is nothing like that. Not when it comes to sex, and as a man if you are good at doing it, with your partner, it should be nice, no matter who your partner is. You might say you prefer fat women, but remember that fat is just fat. If you are dating a fat woman she might just lose weight and become thin. Are you going to leave her and look for someone fat? If you like thin girls and your slim girl gains weight, are you going to be up and about looking for a slim girl?

Don’t be in love with weight. Weight is just weight. And I am not saying that you should not pick a girl with big bums and curves if that’s what you like, but I am saying don’t let your love for someone be just based on the size of a bum. She might get stress and lose that bum. Then there are race issues. Some women, especially in Africa and China believe in getting married to white men. Some white women in Europe believe that men in Africa sex better.Word has it that some guys in Africa believe that if you ever sex an Indian, American or French woman you will forget the day you were born. Those things are just mental perceptions. And such have promoted sex tourism. There is nothing like that. How is a man or a woman going to go around test-driving women of all the races to verify myths that were born out of pure ignorance? It is just a mindset. If you believe girls in Russia are the best, its going to be that way to you. And yes if you believe Russian girls are the best then get yourself a Russian girl and settle.

You should get what you want, settle and enjoy it. There is no way you are going to eat everything in the restaurant’s menu and not have problems. Even rich guys choose what they want to eat. I have met and known racists who believed that falling in love with black chicks is degrading because they lowly rate them as unclean ‘‘kaffirs.’’ Generalization is hardly true. But that aside, mentality is king. ‘‘I know and am convinced by the Lord Jesus that there is nothing unclean of itself; but to him who considers anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean’’,(Romans 14:14). I just love that verse coz it shows us that it’s all about our minds.

Now, let me talk to ladies who pick a guy simply because he’s got money. While most men hate the thought of that, there is nothing wrong with a lady choosing someone because he’s got this or that. Ladies love to be provided for and will always love a guy who seems to have it all figured out—especially when it comes to money. It’s natural, I mean, who would want to marry a fool who can’t provide? But let me warn you ladies not to be imprudent in your search for a provider. Be careful not to miss out on a guy with potential simply because there’s a rich dude driving a Cadillac in front of you. You can’t afford to be that cheap. If love is what you want, don’t just open your thighs because a guy has got money. Remember, ‘‘ the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows’’,(1 Timothy 6:10).And if you are a Christian, and you turn in self-defeating style and make money your God, don’t forget that ‘‘ Their sorrows shall be multiplied who hasten after another god’’,(Psalms 15:4).

Then there are guys who think ladies love mating like a breeding bull, and go up and about just learning how to sex better. These kinds of guys have got the wrong mentality. Women love sex, but they love to be loved and cared for more than just being sexed. It’s scientifically proven that men and women both love sex but men give it first priority. A woman may love sex, but that’s not her number 1 priority. Most women have left guys who could have sex like monsters, they had big chests, and 6 pacs and they left them for teddy bears that proved to be able to love them and care for them. Same for men, some have left women who knew how to do laundry, iron the clothes and cook like Colonel Saunders. Men want sex and it’s their number 1 priority. That’s why he keeps calling you to be with him when you are caught up in house chores. Do you want to love him the way he wants to be loved or the way you think you should love him? If you keep on doing that, you will understand the hard way why some men have left wives of virtue for bitches. Bitches gave them sex and that’s what they wanted, and if you don’t like the sound of that, then suit yourself. Same to you men, if you are up and about jobless and investing in knowing how to sex, buying books on karma sutra and tantric sex to pleasure her, there is a high chance you will not be able to keep a woman. You see, women want a guy that can afford to provide for them and love, protect, cherish, care and of course sex them. But sex to them is just one of them sex things. A woman can stay many weeks, months or years without sex and still feel fine, but she suffers badly if she has to stay a week without love, more specifically affection. To buy a lady something at Wal-Mart calls for money, not a long penis or better sex. The teller in any shop will never measure the length of one’s penis to give them goods in exchange for penile length or a mind bursting sex life. Yes it’s good to have great sex or even a great hood. I love sex, and I am not going to deny that and pretend just because I am a preacher. But don’t be too obsessed with sex and think women are. That’s so wrong dude. If you are a guy, take a look at those diagrams again. I want you to know that all women have a reproductive system like that one on the diagram. Don’t go chasing butterflies, just get one lady and spoil yourself. If you are a lady, you heard me... every man has a penis but what matters profoundly is which one of them loves you dearly. If you are careless about sex simply because your seductive power drives you nuts, Madam it won’t be long till guys treat you like a used chewing gum. Think about that and till then, take care...

2 The sex quadrant

What is so important about sex that makes a preacher like me to write a book about it? Oh okay, let me answer that. Now, who is first? I will start with women. Ladies first, right? Sex helps women relief stress especially after a boring day at work. Sex can humiliate a headache and refresh a fatigued woman—it’s a refreshment of some sort. Women who sex their husbands have a better chance of patronizing them hence winning their favor because men love sex and will treat tenderly women who care enough about them to treat them to cookie pleasure. In India, sex is respected for procreation. It helps women bond with their men at a level that nothing else can come to. It helps to put female lovers on the spotlight such that they feel attractive and confident. Women who ignore sex long enough can suffer vaginal atrophy—simply defined as a ‘‘waste away, typically due to the degeneration of cells.’’ Ladies, don’t waste this thing. Once you lose control over sex you’re losing control over your man. Sex to a man is like candy to a kid or milk to a cat, it keeps his mood jovial. Men who enjoy sex are happier than men who don’t. Men with poor sex lives can often be moody and grumpy and easily irritable. Lack of desire for sex on the part of women causes depression in men, and the bulk of them, nag, lust, visit prostitutes and do side-chicks. After all, not all men are Christians and not all Christians are strong enough to stand sexual denial. And he is not going to tell you he did a call girl or one night stand. You will be there playing forbidden and he will just watch you and bother you less. It’s like a kid,when a kid is too quite,there is something happening during that span of silence. If you check you will find the kid muddy,playing with soap mixed with oil and doing all sorts of destructive things. When your man becomes quiet and doesn’t bother you no more, get bothered! He’s probably taken his bother to the next camp. A lot of men simply don’t understand how loved they are unless it’s communicated through sex. It’s a language men speak. Besides, sex is a calorie burner that is way better than the treadmill coz you can burn close to 200 calories in a one hour sex session .It hydrates skin,improves it and strengthens nails thus helping your gal to have durable manicures. It’s cardio exercising, activates thigh muscles and improves your hair by making it shine. A study done in Queen’s University shows that sex somehow extends the lifespan of its beneficiaries. It improves the sense of smell through the production of prolactin. It reduces your chances of heart diseases. It alleviates pain through oxytocin and somehow prevents the pain of arthritis, and migraine aches. Yes, you have been saying it jokingly, but you are right, sex does discourage flu and colds by increasing levels of an antibody called immunoglobin. Sex deters prostate cancer from boasting about conquering you and balances your hormones. Dentists agree that sperms have in them a reasonable amount of zinc, calcium and other dental elements that help produce healthy teeth as your body absorbs his sperms. I am just saying ladies. Not that I am trying to get you to swallow his sperms.No.Haaaahaaa.I am just saying.Sex is good medicine. That’s a whole pharmacy between one’s legs. I wish all women and men knew this.Next time you struggle to get some sleep,don’t take expensive tranquilizers,save money, have sex and you will sleep like a baby. Good sex a week, keeps the doctor away. I really get tired of praying for people whose solution is just a shag away. I want to pray for real issues and concerns.

Since sex is so important, I am going to say the same thing in few ways before I start teaching you the sex quadrant. I have always hated formal school for being so formal and rigid that some clever people had to be dropouts to succeed at life. Our world is led by dropouts who could not wait another moment to quit school and start living. Brad Pitt dropped out of the University of Missouri instead of waiting two more weeks for graduation. Oprah dropped out of Tennessee State University. Talk about Jim Carrey and Lady Gaga. Those are dropouts. Tom Hanks, Abraham Lincoln, Walt Disney, John Lennon and John Mackey are some the world’s famous dropouts. They are just like Tupac Shakor, Lil Wayne, Eminem and them. Funny enough, our schoolbooks are loaded with lessons from people who rejected or were rejected by the educational system. We study windows, apple OS manuals and stuff. But that stuff comes from drop puts. Ironic isn’t it?

Formal school can teach you about the force of gravity but not sex, and how to do it graciously unless you are studying sex therapy . They can teach you how to write a formal letter of employment or curriculum vitae but how many schools teach one how to write a company profile? We are learning how to deal with organizational rivalry but our own enemies are messing us up. Then there’s this guy who holds a bachelor’s degree in Business Admin, and the same guy runs someone’s company better than his own life. Why is it like that? I think we hardly think we can apply the things we learn at school on ourselves because we were taught to think within the perimeters of employment. But today, that should end. I will teach you sex stuff using the very things you learned at school. In the bedroom, if ever you need to turn your lover on, you are simply trying to create a demand so that you can supply. That’s basic economics and the very thing you learned about supply and demand. Your lover is an asset, and you have the liability to put this asset to full use but there are going to be some operating expenses. That’s accounts. You see, a person is like a system and there is no way any system will run without ignition and preparing for that system to operate, especially when it comes to sex. That’s engineering. But in business school we learned something that might change your bedroom life forever.

Around 1953,Neil Borden, of the American Marketing association brought about new knowledge for marketers by introducing the 4p’s of marketing (Product, Price, Place and promotion). In 1990’s Lauterborn converted the 4ps to four Cs (consumer, cost, communication, convenience) citing the need to be more customer orientated. But to me the difference between these four P’s and C’s was nothing more than playing around with acronyms because the meaning is quiet similar. Product is comparable to commodity, Price is basically cost and promotion and communication go together while place is a matter of convenience. If you are not into marketing, not only are you bored by me saying this, you also don’t understand it. But please hang on, for just a bit.

If you’ve ever learned marketing you might have come across something called the market mix. I call it the ‘‘marketing quadrant’’ because it’s made up of 4 things that constitute intelligent marketing. Quad means four. Just hang on. You will learn things that you never thought you needed to rock your bedroom life. Simply put, Marketing is exposing what you have for the consumer to enjoy. Marketing looks at this in four aspects, which I love to call the marketing quadrant, but is quite often referred to as the ‘‘market mix.’’ Basically, the marketing quadrant is a combination of four factors that can be controlled by a company to influence consumers to purchase its products and these are namely: product, place, promotion and price. What kind of product in terms of shape, size, color, texture and other features determines your market’s response? Which place are you selling it and what are the means of promoting it? What about pricing? These four components determine the difference between epic performance and grey mediocrity in marketing. And that sounds very academic, right? Well its very sexy as well. Wait until I unfold it.

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