5. Tableware. You will need: a sippy cup (with two handles), a couple of plates (children love the ones with pictures on the bottom), fork and spoon (it is more convenient for children to hold utensils with round handles, not flat).
6. Toys. The two most important things about toys are: safe materials and appropriate age group. But here is my observation: no matter how interesting and vibrantly colored modern toys were, Matvey spent more time playing with the old Soviet classics weeble-wobble, toy blocks, humming top and ring stacker. I guess the love for these toys is genetic. Plus the ball, of course.
I also recommend buying big boxes or containers for all these treasures. They make it much easier to tidy up and teach your child to put away his/her toys.
Buying for your baby is a never-ending process. I think baby shopping business can be compared with drug dealing. Every year so many new parents fall into its net, leaving all their family budget in baby shops, and it is quite impossible to get off this needle.
I should say that all those most trendy and modern things for children contain a heavy dose of marketing. Smart marketing specialist do not stop thinking which hippopotamus will please babies the most: the blue one or the purple one? Which toy rattle is the best for physical coordination development? Which function to add to the pram to impress new parents? Maybe an automatic scale to measure the babys weight or the mood detector? Or maybe a GPS navigator? On-board Wi-Fi?
Sometimes you get so caught up in this shopping rage for all the latest things that you do not even notice how you buy another newest development for an insane amount of money, and later it turns out to be useless. I remember buying these awesome colorful wax crayons in the shape of an egg, suitable for a babys hand. Red, blue and yellow. Three crayons for 650 rubles (around $12 / 11). I spread out a big piece of drawing paper on the floor and showed Matvey the magical colorful lines which he could create with these crayons. After that I gave one to him. Drawing grabbed his attention for exactly 20 seconds, after which he savored half of the blue egg. Since then all my attempts to persuade my son to draw with wax eggs ended in the same way. He was only nibbling on them. Later I gave him a simple ball point pen which cost 8 rubles (around 15 cents). Of course, Matvey immediately started drawing with it, taking the pen correctly since the first try, just like a first-grader.
Certainly, there are expensive baby products that totally justify their cost. However, it does not happen that often. To make planning and shopping a bit easier for you, below is the full list of all mentioned things without my comments.
Shopping list
I. For the baby
1. Baby bed + soft bumpers.
2. Mattress.
3. Waterproof cloth (12 pcs.).
4. Fitted sheets (23 pcs.).
5. Baby sleeping bag.
6. Cotton blanket.
7. Fleece throw blanket.
8. Baby changing table with chest of drawers + soft mattress with bumpers.
9. Trash can with a lid.
10. Basket for dirty clothes.
11. Towel (better with a hood).
12. Air humidifier.
13. Pram/stroller.
14. Rain cover and mosquito net for the pram.
15. Child safety seat.
16. Diapers (2 packs, first size).
17. Baby wipes for hygiene care (better take a couple of packs).
18. Disposable underpads (same here, you will need a couple of packs).
19. Swaddles (46 pcs.).
20. Baby tissue paper or soft napkins.
21. Clothes.
Summer:
cotton bodysuits with short sleeves 34 pcs.;
cotton footed pants 34 pcs.;
cotton sleepsuits 34 pcs.;
cotton caps 2 pcs.;
cotton (throw) blanket for walks;
newborn mittens.
Autumn-spring:
Same as for the summer, plus
knitted cap;
warm hat;
warm knit sleepsuit or a light fleece one without lining;
fleece sleepsuit with a lining;
light bunting suit (6080 gram fill insulation);
warm fleece throw blanket.
Winter:
Same as for autumn/spring, plus
warm woolen socks;
winter bunting suit (250300 gram fill insulation) instead of a light version mentioned in the previous list (you can buy that closer to spring)
22. Sterilizer (not essential).
23. Breast pump.
24. Bottles, fit for your chosen breast pump (with smallest flow bottle teats).
25. Pacifiers 2 pcs., clip on chain.
26. Video baby monitor (not essential).
27. Baby bathtub.
28. Baby care products:
baby soap;
soft hair brush;
baby scissors or nail clippers;
nasal aspirator;
cotton pads;
moisturizing cream;
nappy cream;
baby laundry detergent;
baby shampoo.
29. Baby medicine cabinet:
bath herbs (special baby kits or separately packs of chamomile and beggarticks);
bepanthen;
hydrogen peroxide;
paracetamol suppositories (for infants);
baby oil;
saline solution for nose (baby nasal drops);
thermometer.
30. Baby rattles.
31. Mobile for the crib (not essential).
32. Baby bouncer (not essential).
ІІ. For the mother
1. Maternity bras 23 pcs.
2. After birth belly wrap.
3. Postpartum pads (45 packs).
4. Nursing pads for bras (23 packs).
5. Lansinoh for breasts.
6. Breastfeeding pillow (not essential).
7. Nursing clothes (not essential).
8. Fitball (not essential).
9. Sling (not essential).
10. Wide shawl (not essential).
ІІІ. What you might need later
1. Playpen (not essential).
2. Potty.
3. High chair.
4. Bib 2 pcs.
5. Tableware; sippy cup (later a simple cup), plates (2 pcs.), spoon and fork.
6. Toys + boxes or containers to store them.
Have a great shopping experience!
Chapter 2. First days after birth
Mother Nature thoughtfully gifted a woman with (((memory like a sieve))) oxytocin, in order for all labor pain to be forgotten so that a woman would absolutely willingly want to go through all this torture again. It is so amazing how fast we start to think that it was really not that bad and hard, and yes, painful, but just a little bit. Even if you clearly remember that during labor you were thinking: Never again!!!, your brain will still make up excuses to actually do it again. Maybe then it was like this just because you did not have enough sleep, or the doctor did something wrong, and to tell the truth, the weather was kind of bad as well. Anyway, it seems like everything was quite tolerable. Actually, these kind of stories are usually told to a friend who is about to give birth. And then she calls you right after birth, screaming: Why did you lie to me?! Is THAT not painful?! I nearly died!!! Then again, some months after giving birth, the very same friend tells her pregnant acquaintance: Labor? Well, it is fine, not a big deal. I had it quite smoothly
This is the magic of nature. No matter how hard labor was, pain and weariness disappear in an instance, as soon as you see your newborn baby for the first time and hold him/her to your breast. You smile and cry from happiness, hear your babys first cry, feel him/her on your skin, this tiny warm miracle on your breast Day and night you are looking at this cutest peaceful face, and cannot get enough of it. It never happened to you before. You became a Mom!
This is the magic of nature. No matter how hard labor was, pain and weariness disappear in an instance, as soon as you see your newborn baby for the first time and hold him/her to your breast. You smile and cry from happiness, hear your babys first cry, feel him/her on your skin, this tiny warm miracle on your breast Day and night you are looking at this cutest peaceful face, and cannot get enough of it. It never happened to you before. You became a Mom!
І. A little bit of physiology
To enjoy motherhood to its fullest after birth, you need to know some facts beforehand. In the following section we will speak about physiology, so if there are any men among my readers, then maybe it is better that you skip to another chapter.
1. For a better after-birth recovery without any complications, it is important to lay on your belly as much as you can (you finally get an opportunity to do so after 9 months!) and stand as much as you can. This way your uterus will get rid of all the excessive stuff much faster. Stand up and walk regularly, even within the borders of the postnatal ward. You can just stand by the window and muse upon passers-by who are hurrying somewhere and do not even have the slightest idea that the whole world has just changed.
2. If your baby swallowed some blood when he was moving through the birth canal, then some time later he will be posseting with terrifying blood clots (nobody told me about that so the first night after birth when it happened I started panicking and called for a nurse).
For this reason, you have to put the baby on his\her side first nights after birth. In order for him\her not to turn to his back, roll a blanket or a towel and put it behind the babys back to support it. Do not forget to change side on which your baby is sleeping (interchange left and right side).
3. It is important to know some of the specific characteristics of a newborn. This will help you to avoid unnecessary worries when you meet your baby for the first time.
a newborn baby who just came into this world, does not have a pink skin like we think. It is more of a red tone, blueish or even purple. Do not panic! Soon your newborn will adapt to the unfamiliar surroundings and will become your typical rosy-cheeked baby. Feet might still stay a bit purple for some days, though;
in the beginning your baby will look a bit wrinkly and crooked. No wonder! Imagine spending some months in a small cask! With time your babys back will become more straight, you will see the neck, and his arms and legs will get straight as well;
a newborn baby cannot hold his head yet, his neck is too weak, so make sure you always support the head when you pick up and hold your baby. Do not let any abrupt movements in the neck area. If necessary, ask a nurse to show you how to hold a baby carefully and safely, including the times when you give him\her a bath or perform hygienic procedures;
your babys skin might slightly peel off in the beginning, especially on the back, palms of his hands and on the feet. This process will soon come to an end by itself;
some babies may have red vascular spots on their body (more often on the head). They will also disappear on their own, though not so fast (usually it takes more than a year);
you might find white spots (like little cysts) on your babys face (especially on the nose). These spots are called milia, or milk spots. They usually occur due to the clog of the sebaceous glands. You do not have to do anything about them, they will disappear on their own in the course of some weeks;
babys first feces are dark-colored, even black. When you start breastfeeding, it will gradually change color to yellow or a little bit ginger, quite runny in consistency. It can also contain white grains of undigested breast milk.
4. Until the milk comes in, your baby will actively draw drops of colostrum. And by draw I mean gnaw until the nipple is bleeding. To save the breast you can regularly apply Lansinoh to the nipples. You do not have to wash it off before breastfeeding. If you develop some serious war wounds (which happens to a lot of us), apply Bepanthen to your nipples directly after breastfeeding (and wash it off with running water before next breastfeeding session).
5. When your milk comes in it is an important event. If it comes unnoticed at night, the following morning new mother wakes up under the two hot stones. I mean, breasts. In the day time you can react fast and start expressing excess milk with your breast pump, in order to avoid engorgement. If you feel that your breast is too hard, hot and hurts (this is engorgement), then express some milk until it feels better. Do not express all of it until the last drop because milk comes in in the same quantity as was expressed (or eaten). On the day when milk comes in (usually it happens on the second or third day after birth) and the day after that, do not go heavy on drinks, or you will be flooded with milky rivers.
Perhaps, for some time you will regularly fight with engorgements because in those first days after birth many new mothers produce milk for wholesale. Be patient, soon it will be fine, and your body will produce the right amount of milk according to the needs of your baby.
6. Right after birth your belly will not go away completely, it will probably look like you are 56 months along again. Your uterus has not contracted to its normal size, it will need about 68 weeks to do that. Breastfeeding contributes to a faster contraction of your uterus, and you might feel it when you are feeding your baby (it might be a bit painful).
7. Do not forget to go to the toilet regularly. Even if you feel like you do not want to. I know it sounds strange now, but wait until you give birth.
8. To feel more calm and confident in the sphere of baby care when you return home, do not be shy to ask for help from a nurse at the hospital. Ask her to show you how to swaddle a baby, change a diaper, etc.
ІІ. A little bit of psychology
When I returned home from hospital, I had a feeling that I was absent for more than a month instead of just four days. Like I had just returned from a long trip. And it looked like everything was the same, but you see it with different eyes No wonder, because your new life has just started!
The first weeks with a baby require determination. However, if you become a mom for the first time in your life, it is not that easy to get ready and gather yourself beforehand. But if you know that you are not alone with those difficulties and worries, it is easier to start your journey of motherhood. I was somehow not aware of the main difficulties, and all those things that I read during my pregnancy turned out to be not that important after all. From the books I learned how to swaddle and bathe a baby, fight baby colic and many other everyday things. But nobody wrote that the above mentioned colic can bring the parents to the boil. In fact, those books only superficially mentioned all psychological difficulties that might await the new mother. Mothers/grandmothers also kept silent, pretending that they did not have any of those problems, and wondering why I am complaining about the lack of sleep and weariness.
Meanwhile, the birth of your baby is a huge psychological stress. After birth hormone levels are unstable, there is physical and emotional weariness, constant lack of sleep, various fears and doubts new mother experiences all of this, together with the infinite happiness, of course.