4. Massage is beneficial for all babies. It is recommended to start doing massage starting from one month. There is a therapeutic massage which is done by professionals, but a common, general massage is something which you can do yourself, especially knowing that massage done by the parents is more pleasant for a baby. There are some great books about baby massage and gymnastics for beginners that can be done by parents at home.
5. Cold training many associate it with bathing in ice cold water and walking barefoot on the snow. However, it is not only these entertaining activities. It is introducing your child to different temperatures, water and sun. It is also getting some fresh air every day, adequately dressing your baby according to weather, not wearing socks inside the house and bathing. All of the mentioned things help to toughen up your child.
6. Important conditions for recovering from an illness. I will not describe any specific illnesses here, and it is not reasonable to diagnose online. However, there are some simple yet very effective steps that will help your child to recover faster from any form of cold, and not only cold.
The steps are:
airing the house regularly;
air humidification (because in humid air mucus from the nose is discharged faster, and phlegm is easily expectorated while coughing);
cool air in the nursery (around 20 °С, not higher than 22 °С). And do not forget to adequately dress your child so that the body temperature is naturally regulated (by spending the energy to warm up the inhaled air), and mucus does not dry up (which happens when the temperature is higher than 22 °С), otherwise it will be harder to expectorate phlegm;
increased warm fluid intake (breast milk, dried fruit drink or water) to help thin the blood, remove toxins and lower body temperature. If your baby quickly loses water as well (for example, sweats or, God forbid, vomits or has a diarrhea), it is crucial to rehydrate, because while losing water your baby also loses all nutrients. To rehydrate you can give your baby a sugar-and-salt solution (sold in pharmacies). If you do not have it, give a simple dried fruit drink which is also rich in nutrients;
put a few drops of saline solution to the nose (to moisten the nasal mucous membrane);
if the condition of your baby is not serious and there is no fever, going for a walk is very beneficial.
All above mentioned advice will help to fight off the illness, not only for a baby, but for an adult as well.
Please note again, that I am not a doctor and all of the above are just suggestions to help your baby recover but it is not a universal cure from all illnesses.
7. Household safety.
if your baby is choking over something:
Learn the first aid actions to perform in this situation (when a foreign object restricts breathing). You will not have any time to look for this information somewhere and it might be too late when an ambulance comes. There are different techniques (such as Heimlich maneuver), each of them used on children of various age: from newborn to older children. It would be perfect if you watch video tutorials (for example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h4uS5EmpeEs). Practice on teddy bears and relatives, and you will feel much more confident and calm;
if your baby puts something in his nose:
When your baby learns to crawl, regularly check the floors and all surfaces for small objects. Never try to take the foreign object out yourself, even if you feel that you can do it easily. It is good if your baby already knows how to blow his nose. In this case the problem can be solved easily. If he cannot, let your baby sniff some black pepper and wait for a big productive achoo! Did not help? Visit the ENT specialist;
if your baby eats something he is not supposed to eat (including allergens):
In this case preventive measures are most effective. However, if such accident does happen, give your baby some Enterosgel dissolved in the water, or any other adsorbent (according to age). It is also helpful to keep antihistaminic medicine at home as well. You never know which product, flower on the street or a neighbors hamster can cause allergy for your baby. Depending on the situation, if your baby swallows a dangerous substance or develops a fast reaction, swelling or experiences difficulty breathing, call an ambulance.
8. Safety measures in the period of epidemic. When your baby is ill (and his immunity is weak) and in times of epidemic in your city, do not take chances. Do not visit crowded places with the baby, especially if his nose is blocked, because in this situation it is easier to catch an infection.
My husband works in shifts, so when he was out of town at work for some weeks, during the flu epidemic, I had to be creative and do the shopping without going to the supermarkets. We were walking and buying groceries from the street stands, where you do not have to go inside. Also, we preferred walking in the park and going to friends and relatives, as opposed to going to cafes, shopping malls and playgrounds.
Furthermore, during the increase of incidence rate, regularly wash the babys and your own nose with saline solution. Drink more water, eat garlic and products rich in vitamins.
If you get ill, wear a medical face mask at home and change it every two hours. Take into consideration the above mentioned things and get well soon!
9. Read any popular book about pediatrics and first aid. Nowadays bookstores and the Internet are full of books on this subject, written especially for parents. Having studied them, you will be able to recognize symptoms of different illnesses and take the first necessary steps to help your child before the doctor arrives. Start from the popular books by William and Martha Sears who raised eight children (The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two). Overall, when it comes to the babys health, it is important to keep the balance between common sense, maternal intuition and knowledge. Before over-medicalizing your baby, have some valerian root and calm down. A baby is born with immunity and can handle fighting many infections, he\she just needs a little help. Yes, it might sound horrible to not do anything when your babys body temperature is 37.5, but trust me, if you give antifebrile medicine, it will only lower the performance of the babys own immune system. You can learn that from any knowledgeable pediatrician. Watch your child, listen to what your heart says, consider professionals advice and you will find the best solutions to support your babys health.
Children have an amazing gift of feeling our mood and fears. If a baby is perfectly healthy but his mom is too worried and just waits when he\she gets ill, it will happen eventually, without a doubt.
All of us should stop reading many scary stories on the Internet, imagine what happens if our baby gets ill and simply panic. There will be snots, and not once. There will be high fever and diarrhea. As well as first nail trimming, first blood test and first appointment at the dentist. But in the end everything will be fine! Always remember that.
Chapter 5. Safety rules
Children are such charming people. You cannot take your eyes off them.
And if you do you have only yourself to blame.
Children are such charming people. You cannot take your eyes off them.
And if you do you have only yourself to blame.
Zaryana and Nina Nekrasov. Stop raising children help them grow up
I remember one episode since the time when I was pregnant. I was at the NST with my beautiful belly tied with ribbons and decorated with sensors, reading a smart book about raising a child. So, I was laying there, trying to read, and my eyes were not on the book but on the fetal monitor tape. Here the line strangely went up, and now it is suspiciously quiet. I do not know anything about non-stress tests, but there is something definitely wrong with my babys heartbeat. I call for a nurse. She studies the tape and then looks at me and says the words that I will remember forever: Ok, mommy, when your baby is born, you will have many more reasons to worry. Will you panic like that always? Your NST is perfectly fine!
Then, already after birth, I understood the main difference that occurs in a woman after she has had a baby. I am not talking about changing your bra from B cup to DD. And it is not about the fact that after birth mommies do not tend to converse about universal matters, preferring we woke up and we pooped instead. The most dramatic change is the fear that is now firmly settled in the brain of a delivered woman. Fear for her child, for babys health and for herself as well.
Before birth I was rarely scared for my life. I could even call myself an adrenaline junkie. But then I became more of a scaredy cat. It seemed now that it is more dangerous on the road than it was before, black ice became especially frightening, and the air more dirty (so we definitely have to move outside of the city). I was an overeducated mother and already knew about SIDS and apnea, so at night every half hour I was rushing to the crib to see how my baby was breathing.
After about a year this paranoia started to abate. But I already accepted the fact that it will never go away fully.
I am not alone. Future mommies prepare to become an advanced parent with all their might, swallowing books about early child development and studying advice on how to raise a genius since birth. After birth they suddenly realize that all of this is not so important yet. It is much more important to protect their baby from all dangers of this world.
If you want to avoid many reasons to drink sedatives, it is better to take all necessary precautions and discuss them with the family (and better yet, write all safety rules down). When my husband and I started going out again, we started leaving Matvey with his grandmothers who did babysitting. We printed out an impressive list of household safety rules and put it on refrigerator. This way everyone felt more confident: us, new parents, and the babys grandmothers who forgot things and anyway had an approach of we-did-raise-you-somehow.
Lets divide all those rules into three relative categories according to babys age (or simply speaking, according to the method which he uses to get around). Every next list is an addition to the previous one and includes new rules that take into account your babys growing-up.
Ι. Until your baby learns to crawl
It seems like a newborn is not capable of anything yet. He\she will stay wherever you put him\her and is not able to do anything dangerous. However, everyday your little one develops new skills. There, he\she grabbed a rattle for the first time, rolled over to his tummy for the first time, and there you see he\she already rolled two meters away from where he\she was I remember Matvey was four months old when my friend asked me: So, did he\she fall off a bed already? At that time, I thought: How!? How is that possible to not look after your baby properly and let him fall off a bed? Later I learned how. About six times.
On the changing table
Never leave your baby unattended. Even if he\she did not learn how to roll over yet, your little one can move in unimaginable directions, just like a little caterpillar. Keep all baby care products so that your baby cannot reach them when lying on a changing table.
In the bathroom
Check the water temperature with your elbow. The palms of our hands are much less sensitive. The ideal temperature is when your elbow does not feel cold or hot.
When bathing a baby support his head with the palm of your hand or put it on the crease of your elbow.
3. In the baby bed
Mattress in the baby bed should be enough hard and not easily sagged. Children do not need a pillow until 1,52 years old. Do not cover your baby with a blanket fully to the neck and on top of the babys hands. If you do, he can pull the blanket over his\her face. Either swaddle, or use a special baby sleeping bag.
If you put cushions around for a more comfortable sleep, make sure that they are not close to the babys face and do not close the babys nose. If you sleep next to your baby, make sure that it is safe. Do not use the same blanket and put a cushion between you and the baby.
4. Around the baby
There should not be any long ribbons and strings (on clothes, toys, pacifiers, etc.) in the vicinity. When you are holding a baby (or stay close to him\her), do not drink or eat anything too hot.
5. In the car
Doctors recommend to minimize the number of rides in a car with a baby until he can hold his head. If you have to, you can use a special collar for a baby to support the neck. Naturally, a child of any age must be put in a child safety seat. Yes, babies sometimes do not like to stay in the seat fastened, but safety is more important than silence.
To ensure safety in the car, it is important to buy a good safety seat and install it correctly as well.
Group 0 seats (so-called infant carriers) are installed only on the back seat of a car, perpendicular to the direction of the movement, head to door. Baby carriers hold the baby lying on the back.
Group 0+ seats are installed only in a rear-facing position, preferably on the back seat. If you put it on the front seat, make sure to turn the passenger airbag off.
Group 1 seats (for children who weigh 918 kg and can already sit properly) are forward-facing. Your baby is secured in the seat with a 5-point harness.
6. When going for a walk
In the summer avoid direct sunlight on the newborns skin. When your baby grows up a little, do not forget about the baby sunhat and sunscreen.
ΙΙ. When your baby already crawls
In the blink of an eye you baby will start getting around on his\her own. It seems like only yesterday he\she was laying on his tummy, and there he\she is, already crawled to the cupboard and is now playing with pots, spoons, pasta and other educational material.
If you do not want to impose restrictions or have many reasons to worry, simply make your home safe in advance. Before your little one starts exploring the surroundings, remove all electric cables and other dangerous things from the floor.
1. Safe environment at home
Get into the habit of closing the doors of all potentially dangerous spaces: balconies, pantry, closet with household cleaning products, etc. Put safety plugs into electrical sockets, hide away the cables, household chemicals and pharmaceuticals (better put them in an inaccessible lockable place). Put higher all sharp and breakable objects (such as vases, glass jars and bottles, household tools, etc.). Put away plastic bags and cords.