But there is a way out: we can gently restructure our thinking patterns and beliefs into new connections. And remember, whatever thinking pattern you have; it projects a picture of the world confirming that belief. The more we are convinced of something, the stronger these connections become.
This principle lies at the heart of all my courses, whether they are about finance, work, health, fulfilling desires, or solving life issues. Everything we see around us is a projection of our thoughts. The projection of reality correlates with our beliefs and confirms them, so we make our brain stronger and it can function.
Any truth is self-confirming. You have probably heard it many times: «You get what you believe in.» We see the world in a certain way, react to it, and convince ourselves of the truth we see. This is exactly what a soliton needs to supply itself with energy to stay alive. The connections become stronger and more stable. Soliton keeps adding thoughts and generating images so that we strengthen our belief. Our attention is the fabric of life. Hence, we perceive the world around us according to our beliefs and the truth in our heads.
Since I dont tend to write in a linear fashion, I might have completely confused and tired you out. The way I say things sometimes resembles «alien language». Nevertheless, I tried to make it clear. I hope it resonates. I would be very glad if you come to realize this someday. But you need this chapter to connect the dots and have a deeper understanding of your smoking-related beliefs. Lets talk about them now.
Quit Without Quitting
Its no joke. Quitting smoking is fraught with the danger of not being able to quit. Moreover, smoking is just a consequence. And the more you try to quit smoking, the fewer chances you have of becoming a non-smoker. Why? Because when you start to light a cigarette again, you lose your faith in giving it up for good.
Numerous attempts to quit ended in a relapse. You started smoking again. That made neural connections become solid as a rock, and now they wont let you destroy them that easily. Youve lost hope of ever quitting.
Even if you start to repeat it like a mantra now: «its possible, its possible,» even if you say it a thousand times, it will not work. Youve formed a solid belief based on your knowledge and experience, that is always reinforced by reality. Convincing yourself by repeating words is not effective, because the connections in your brain wont allow you to destroy them. They will fight back till the end.
Think about it. Every time you slip, you assure yourself that its impossible to quit. And your belief will just keep getting more ingrained. Or you believe its difficult and this also becomes a thinking pattern.
You probably think that you like smoking, that smoking relieves stress and that it helps you enjoy life. When you smoke, you have a broad smile on your face, and enjoy the moment. Yeah, you have a lot of these beliefs. In that case, your brain will project relevant reality in order to strengthen and confirm them as ultimate truth.
Remember one paramount thing:
Its not reality that convinces us of the something, when you «saw and believed», no. First, we «decide» to believe. Only then does the brain build up confirmation in the real world so that we witness it and our thoughts «grow stronger». Its one of the scientifically proven functions of the human brain.
And now you have the opportunity to learn how it works, how beliefs are formed. Youre capable of changing your way of thinking. No rush, no struggle. Once you change your attitude towards smoking, your brain will create a new reality where youre a happy non-smoker.